A so-called “tradwife” who lives like a 1950s-style housewife is speaking out about why she chose this traditional lifestyle.
Speaking with the Daily Mail this week, San Diego-based “tradwife” Alexis Delarosa, 29, seemed to suggest she was inspired to be a homemaker because of her own mother’s non-homemaker lifestyle.
“My mom worked and she also enjoyed time outside of our family home with friends. I have always wanted a more traditional model for my family. I loved the idea of a 50’s style family life, where the wife stays home to look after her husband and kids, and the husband goes out to work full time,” she said.
“I remember watching films where the women would stay home to cook and clean for their husbands, and I thought it was a romantic and sweet life. It really resonated with me,” she added.
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According to the Daily Mail, her husband is totally into it.
“When she first started dating her husband, Matthew, 37, she made sure they talked about the kind of family and life they wanted from the outset,” the outlet noted.
“Luckily, their visions aligned and they both loved the idea of Matthew working full-time and taking care of the finances, while Alexia would stay home and look after various duties and future life,” the outlet reported.
“When I fell pregnant with our first son, Archer, now two, we decided very early on that I would stay home with him,” Delarosa said.
“I had an at-home baking business which I did part-time, but when I fell pregnant with our second son, Arlo, one, I became fully focused on looking after the two boys, Matthew and our home. I’ve always loved homemaking and I was more than happy to take on this role,” she added.
Returning to the present, these days her husband runs a coffee shop and is “constantly working.” As a result, she does all the housework by herself.
“Matthew doesn’t have any duties assigned to him. I take care of all of the chores and ensure dinner is on the table for when he finishes work. This is when we have a meal together as a family. I am quite particular in the way things are, so I like it to be this way too,” she said.
“Matthew loves to be at work, and I love to be at home taking care of things. We both thrive in our roles and this arrangement works perfectly for us,” she added.
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To make it work, Delarosa has a routine.
“Our family is very routine-orientated. I wake up between 5:30 am and 6:00 am to get myself ready before the kids wake up. Once they’re awake at around 6:30 am, I do breakfast for the three of us, and I love to make things from scratch. I then clean up and spend time playing with the boys in the house. We will sometimes take a trip to the coffee shop to see their dad or go to the park, depending on their nap times,” she said.
“I then do lunch, they have an afternoon nap, and during this time I do some laundry and figure out what we will have for dinner. When I wake them up from their nap, we play around the house, I make dinner, do bath time, read their books, and put the boys to bed for 7 pm. Once they’re in bed, I do one last clean through the house so it’s not a wreck when we wake up in the morning,” she added.
Her routine includes posting photos and videos to Instagram. Unfortunately, but not surprisingly, her family-friendly, traditionally-minded Instagram content often attracts criticism from haters.
“People like to comment to tell me that being a full-time mom and wife isn’t a real job. Some people even tell me that I am turning the clock back 50 years. However, I don’t let it bother me because I know that the job I am doing is invaluable, and it would be so expensive if we were to pay someone else to fulfill this role while I went out to work,” she said.
“It is so important to have a parent in the home that is consistently there for the kids. I used to be a nanny, and I was there for so many special and cute moments with the kids I was nannying for. They were such special times. And it made me realize that I wanted to be there for all of these moments when I had my own kids,” she added.
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Also not surprisingly, it appears Delarosa is no fan of the public school system, as she’s decided to homeschool her own kids.
“There are so many… things that can happen to them while they are out of my care. It really scares me. For example, Archer had been at a party and playing with some kids, and by the time we were driving home, he was saying ‘you’re stupid’ and we never say words like this at home,” she said.
“It can happen so quickly it’s scary, so I want to be there to guide them and make sure they’re getting brought up the way we’d like them to. We can remain in control until they’re older and can judge characters for themselves,” she added.
Concluding her remarks to the Daily Mail, she touted her “stable and predictable home life.”
“I’ve always known that there were things that I wanted to do differently for my own family compared to my upbringing. I didn’t want my kids to feel like they had to escape their home, and I wanted them to be confident in the fact that their mom’s always around and things are always taken care of. I wanted them to have a stable and predictable home life. I couldn’t imagine our family any other way,” she said.
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V. Saxena is a staff writer with a decade of experience as a professional writer, and a lifetime of experience as an avid news junkie. He holds a degree in computer technology from Purdue University. Saxena also contributes to BizPac Review.
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