New York Magazine has come up with an exhaustive list of new etiquette “rules” asking denizens of the Big Apple if they know how to behave when it comes to texting, tipping, ghosting, hosting, and their general existence in polite society today that adds up to little more than woke censorship.
The article addresses issues such as making small talk with others, tipping at bodegas, pronouncing the name of “50 Cent” correctly, and recovering from misgendering a new acquaintance in a twist on etiquette that Emily Post would cringe over.
Some of the items make sense, but many do not. Advice such as not getting into a phone vortex at dinner, treating and tipping waiters and bartenders well, and wearing shoes in the office are all fairly common sense directives.
There are 140 rules listed and many feel that some of them are not only mind-numbingly stupid, they are also downright offensive. The list is broken into sections including “Friends & Lovers,” “Strangers & Others,” “Going Out & Staying In,” “Tipping,” “Work,” “The City,” “Parenting,” and “Posting & Texting.”
rax presents: The Worst of The Cut’s Etiquette List!
item 1 is a normal thing to do in new york and a great way to get hit by a car in the entire rest of the country pic.twitter.com/vOS8MORcTu
— rax ‘leads with her crotch’ king (@RaxKingIsDead) February 3, 2023
This is the New York Magazine etiquette rule that I find the most bewildering:
"36. Never ask anyone what their job is.
It’s classist and boring. Try three other topics first."
— Eric Newcomer (@EricNewcomer) February 3, 2023
Most of it boils down to advising New Yorkers, who are notorious for being brash, bawdy, and thick-skinned, to go out of their way to not offend woke individuals who are obsessed with microaggressions.
Some of the infantile, progressive advice includes:
* “Straight people can use the word partner only when they’re trying to get something out of it.”
* “Do not touch the small of my back to move around me at the bar if you’re ugly.”
* “Don’t address two or more women as ladies. From men, it’s oddly creepy; from women, it’s ‘an unnecessary attempt to feign some kind of unity or connection between women.”
* “Avoid vague and cliche euphemisms for your privilege.”
* “Accents aren’t ‘cute.’ It’s condescending to describe them thusly.”
* “Don’t be loudly naive about dating apps if you’re in a relationship.”
* “White people should always clearly pronounce 50 Cent. He’s not Fiddy for you.”
* “Don’t tell people they look like other people … because it is potentially insulting.”
I like a lot of these rules but NYC fake hustle never sleeps https://t.co/r4LEi96g3p pic.twitter.com/VlE02GjrPq
— BUM CHILLUPS AKA SPENCER HALL (@edsbs) February 2, 2023
Given that this is New York Magazine I’m certain these people are all already in therapy but the actual human etiquette here is to go to therapy instead of putting it on your friends to constantly confirm they like you pic.twitter.com/KdPIGI9sO5
— Jerry Iannelli (@jerryiannelli) February 3, 2023
The author is really into tipping: “At coffee shops, coffee carts, cafes, and bodegas, tip at least 20%.” In fact, according to the “rules,” you wind up tipping on just about everything.
Considering the current state of the economy, New Yorkers are struggling to put food on the table and keep a roof over their heads. Many can’t afford such extravagant tipping and to advise them to do so is unrealistic.
And the “privilege” mantra is getting old, “Avoid vague and cliché euphemisms for your privilege.” It’s not even clear what that means.
Just as confusing is the advice to stand up for someone who is being misgendered. That is a subject that many avoid and wisely so.
Is this… is this really happening enough for The Cut to put in their list of modern social etiquette? Is everyone in New York putting bowls of cigarettes out at dinner parties these days? pic.twitter.com/mIB2aaaSVm
— Tom Knowles (@tkbeynon) February 2, 2023
read through that entire list of modern etiquette tips, which mostly just reinforced the idea that i am completely divorced from what new york magazine culture writers consider as having a social life
— bitmap (@_bitmap) February 2, 2023
If you weren’t confused already or suitably insulted, take a look at this one: “White people should not use any variation of racial slurs at karaoke. Tricked into performing a classic Jay-Z–Kanye collab? That song is ‘Friends in Paris’ to you.”
While tipping is mandatory, morals evidently aren’t according to the list, “Saw someone shoplifting? No, you didn’t.” So misgendering is bad but you should give a pass to thieves and criminals?
The list put out by The New Yorker could have been much shorter and a lot less cringe-worthy.
Kirsten Fleming at the New York Post summed it up nicely, “If someone is wearing a mask, don’t ask why, because who the hell cares. Help women and old people carry their strollers and carts up the subway steps. Walk fast. Be nice to your cab driver. Don’t eat pizza with a fork and knife. And lighten the f–k up.”
Get the latest BPR news delivered free to your inbox daily. SIGN UP HERE
DONATE TO AMERICAN WIRE
If you are fed up with letting radical big tech execs, phony fact-checkers, tyrannical liberals and a lying mainstream media have unprecedented power over your news please consider making a donation to American Wire News to help us fight them.
- Fox News producer unleashes explosive allegations in new lawsuit against network - March 21, 2023
- Dad gets an earful when he asks if he’s an ‘a**hole’ for demanding ‘conservative’ father use pronouns for stepson - March 21, 2023
- UN releases frantic call to cease new fossil fuel production, fast track ‘climate action’ to stop ‘time bomb’ - March 21, 2023
We have no tolerance for comments containing violence, racism, profanity, vulgarity, doxing, or discourteous behavior. If a comment is spam, instead of replying to it please click the ∨ icon below and to the right of that comment. Thank you for partnering with us to maintain fruitful conversation.