A West Virginia woman took to social media to divulge a little too much information about her own insecurities while outing her husband for watching too much porn, which she said resulted in a feeling of “betrayal trauma.”
Jourdan Kehr shared a video on TikTok talking about the game-planning she did prior to watching “Oppenheimer” because of the film’s sex scenes featuring Florence Pugh — the result being that she made her husband shield his eyes and rest his head on her shoulder when things got hot and heavy.
“Okay so I research everything before we watch it but especially this movie,” the photographer said in the video. “Obviously I heard about it, yes we wanted to see it, it has an amazing rating.”
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“‘We prepared ourselves. I didn’t know when the scene was going to happen and I also didn’t understand how the scene was happening. I thought it was just several minutes straight of…”
Unwilling to say the word “sex” out loud, Jourdan mouthed it instead — which may or may not explain her husband’s interest in porn.
“But it wasn’t, it was actually broken up into like it would be a flash of that and then it would be a flash of normal life and then it would be a flash of the scene,” she continued. “It was very back and forth so it was really difficult to avoid it.”
She explained that she and her husband game plan before any outing, be it a movie, a concert, or any other event about being “triggered” by something she sees.
“So essentially what we did was when the scene came up, when things were happening, he literally closed his eyes and laid his head on my shoulder… And then I would just let him know when it was over,” Jourdan said of her seemingly emasculated husband.
But not to worry, she assured viewers that this humiliation did not take away from his movie-going experience. If you don’t believe him, just ask her.
“I will tell you right now it took nothing away from the story. Him not looking at the screen during did not change the storyline, did not change anything,” Jourdan said.
As you might expect, the video prompted a backlash, which resulted in a second video from the attention-starved woman — she posts countless videos online sharing every fleeting thought she may experience.
“I went through betrayal trauma 10 months ago after nine years of marriage, 10 years of being in a completely monogamous relationship,” she explained. “I was fully under the belief that he didn’t look at other women, he didn’t self pleasure at other women, porn was the furthest thing from my mind.”
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“I never would have thought or believed that he was using porn but he was and I found out about it on September 17, 2022,” Jourdan said. “That was the hardest day of my life. It was the hardest following weeks and following months of my life.”
“Betrayal trauma has changed me as person inside and out,” she continued. “It put me through a lot of stress. It put me through a lot of pain. It put me through sickness. It put me through depression. Gave me a lot of stress and a lot of anxiety.”
The naïve woman told viewers that she has “come a long way in my healing,” while speaking of her husband as if he was a hardcore alcoholic or drug addict.
“I’m still with my husband and I’m so happy and I’m so thankful and I’m so proud to say that he’s been sober for 10 months,” she said. “He’s been doing all the steps, all the work, everything necessary to not only change, stay sober and reach long-term recovery but to also assure me that he is creating a safe space, he is becoming a trustworthy person and he is showing me the signs that I need by his actions, his behaviors and his patterns that he is going in the right direction.”
She wraps up the video by offering to “help” other men and women going through similar experiences.
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Tom Tillison grew up in Maryland before moving to Central Florida as a young teen. It is in the Sunshine State that he honed both his passion for politics and his writing skills. Tillison also contributes to BizPac Review.
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